A while back, I asked a friend of mine what it was like going from one baby to two (he had two daughters at the time). He said, “You know, when you have one kid, how there’s half an hour every day that you get to yourself? To do what you want to do?”
“Sure,” I said.
“Well, with two kids, that’s just gone.”
Even though twins are an incredible blessing, I do have sympathy for new parents who have twins and only twins. They don’t have a chance to team up 2-parents-on-1-baby as 97% of people do, and have those moments of confidence where you think, hey, we can handle this.
But there are experts out there – medical experts, and other parents of twins, who’ve written some wonderful books about being pregnant with and raising twins. Here are seven of my favorites.
Expecting Twins / Multiples 101
Here are three great all-around books on what to expect with twins, from pregnancy through childhood.
|When You’re Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads: Proven Guidelines for a Healthy Multiple Pregnancy
by Barbara Luke and Tamara Eberlein
This is a guide for mothers-to-be expecting twins or higher order multiples, providing crucial information on:
|Twins 101: 50 Must-Have Tips for Pregnancy through Early Childhood
by Khanh-Van Le-Bucklin
This book is a collection of tips for a twin pregnancy and early childhood from “Dr. M.O.M.” (mother of multiples). There’s a special emphasis on educating parents about the NICU, medical jargon related to twins and newborns, and things to discuss with your pediatrician.
|Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More!
by Karen Kerkhoff Gromada
This book is a guide about caring for twins that emphasizes breastfeeding and attaachment-style parenting. Some of the topics covered include:
Raising / Parenting Twins
These are two excellent no-nonsense guides to parenting twins in the first couple of years.
|Raising Twins: From Pregnancy to Preschool
by Shelly Vaziri Flais
Here’s a practical handbook on surviving and enjoying twins from pregnancy to newborn stage through toddlers and preschool. The emphasis here is on parenting multiples and addressing common challenges, such as:
|Twin Sense: A Sanity-Saving Guide to Raising Twins
by Dagmara Scalise
The author, Dagmara Scalise, is a parent of three children under the age of 6 including 3-year-old fraternal twin girls. How she found time to write this book, I couldn’t tell you! This book covers many of the practical aspects of parenting twins: babyproofing, stocking up on the baby supplies you’ll really need, preparing other siblings for the arrival of twins, etc.There are tips for keeping calm and getting through some of the day-to-day tasks that twins complicate:
Life with Twins
Here are two other great reads: a mother’s personal view on raising twins, and a classic book on establishing healthy sleep habits for them.
|Double Time: How I Survived Through the First Three Years of Mothering Twins
by Jane Roper
This book by Jane Roper isn’t really a how-to guide, but the story of her own experience raising fraternal twin girls while battling depression and a host of personal issues.It’s an entertaining and very personal view as she experiences trying to get pregnant, processing the idea of twins, sleepless nights, endless diaper changes, and all of those unforgettable experiences in the first three years of twins’ lives.
|Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Twins: A Step-by-Step Program for Sleep-Training Your Multiples
by Marc Weissbluth
If I could recommend a single book to the parents of twins, especially if these are their first babies, this would be it. From the author of Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child comes this guide especially tailored to twins.In it, you’ll find a comprehensive guide to baby sleep training, including feeding schedules, establishing a bedtime routine, handling late-night wake-ups, and more, all while dealing with the extra difficulty of teaching two babies at once how to sleep through the night.